21. Reprogramming Your Mind for Success - Tommy Walker

Do you find yourself struggling or postponing things in specific areas of your life? Do you feel stuck in life? Do you know you have more potential, but can’t seem to unleash it? If any of these questions resonate with you this episode is one you don’t want to miss. Tommy Walker is an international Speaker, a mindset business and life coach. He is also the author of a book called Mindset Secrets for Success, Unleashing Your Mindset to Have a Successful Life. We hope you can gain some value from this episode. Learn more about Tommy Walker on his website - www.unleashingyourmindset.com

You have a younger self that has facts to prove that he doesn't feel good enough. So if you tell that young self, hey, you're good enough. You know, affirmations, you take affirmations for a month, a year, two years, five years. You see very little change because that little young self has facts that prove that he's not good enough. Belief is going to trigger an emotion. An emotion is going to trigger a behavior. If I have a habit that I want to change, I need to understand that the habit is a repetition of the behavior. And if I try to change the behavior but bring another behavior in, it ain't going to happen because this behavior or this habit that I've created comes from an emotion that comes from a belief. Your mind is a projector and your belief system is a script. You need to change your script so that the projector is going to project another type of life. Hey, everyone, I wanted to mention something briefly before we start this episode. If you go over and follow the Simply Overcoming Podcast Instagram page, we have done a book giveaway and we're going to be doing another book giveaway along with other giveaways in the future. One of the book giveaways that we're going to be doing in the future is a book that was written by today's guest. So if you like today's episode, consider going and following the Instagram page so that you don't miss out on any book giveaways. Thank you and enjoy the episode. Hey, what's going on, everybody? It's Aaron with the Simply Overcoming Podcast. Thank you for coming back. If you're somebody who is a regular listener, we want to say thank you. If you're new to the podcast, we hope that you can stick around and that we can add value to your life. So I have some questions for you. First of all, do you find yourself struggling or postponing things in specific areas of your life? Do you maybe feel stuck in life? Do you feel as if you have potential, but you can't seem to unleash it? Well, if any of these things resonate with you, then this episode is absolutely the one that you don't want to miss. Now today's guest Tommy Walker, the mind engineer. He's an international speaker, a mindset business and life coach. He's also an author. Tommy, first of all, I just want to say thank you so much for being on the podcast and welcome. Thank you, Aaron. Very happy being here and sharing with you guys. So thank you for the listeners, too. So I met Tommy through a Facebook group, and Tommy reached out to me and you're from Argentina, right? That's correct. And you're married. You have two boys. You live in the mountains. In fact, when we started this call, you turned your camera and showed me that it's pouring snow outside. Right now, it is as warm as it is right now where we are I would actually love to have some snow. I want to talk about your transformational journey specifically in your life. But the first thing that I want to ask you is you have this program unleashing your mindset for success. And you've worked with many people who have been going to therapy for many years. And after they started implementing some of the tools that you use, they started seeing a difference right away. And I realized that you aren't trying to claim that your program is some guru healer that's always effective. But my question is, why are people seeing such transformational results with your program over other mainstream counseling services? So it's a very good question. And again, as you said, we're not here saying that we are the best of the best. Not at all. But if you understand, like the mechanic, if somebody doesn't know about mechanic, I want to fix a car. He might take years to figure out what's going on. Kind of the same way is how you see the mind. We need to understand that the mind, Aaron, as we have spoken before, is made up of all our past memories. I can go back and just close my eyes and bring some event that happened in my childhood. It could be a nice event or it could be a bad event. A nice event might make me joy, might make me feel happy, might make me feel cared for love. Or I could have another event where maybe my parents were fighting yesterday. I was talking about this with another person. I used to see my parents fighting, and many times it was over money. So I started putting together beliefs like money. There's no money, there's no love. That was one of the beliefs that I've been finding lately in Little Tommy's. So depending on the kind of I don't know how to say what the people study in psychology, there's so many different paths. The main stream that we follow has to do that. You are acting today out of your past experiences. So again, if you were treated in a way that you weren't feeling good enough today, you're not going to make good decisions because you don't feel good enough. Maybe you're not even making decisions in your life. And you were saying at the beginning you're stuck and you cannot move forward. So those psychology can talk about different streams that we're talking about. You can talk about your past talk. Yeah. When I was a little this and you can realize what I studied is that it's not about talking about your past, only it's about going and reliving the past. But you as a grown up and you as a little boy. So, Aaron, imagine that you are struggling with money. So what we're going to do is by closing your eyes and do a very easy meditation. It's not anything complicated. I started asking you questions to connect with something that's happening today. And as we do that, we're going to connect to a past memories that are associated with this. And as we do that, we are going to find a little errand. This little Aaron is going to tell you as it happened to me, mom and dad are fighting over money or mom and dad are blah, whatever it is. And that little Aaron has its own consciousness. And we need to talk to that little Aaron to find out how he feels, what he made up of his belief system to understand at a deep level why you today, you're struggling with money. You cannot make money or you lose the money you make or whatever it is that you're struggling, you cannot have a steady relationship. You cannot ask for a raise in your job, whatever it is, guys, that you're struggling, it is 100% connected with events in your business, and not just one. I go in each session with a person to find one event. But that doesn't mean that we might have several events we need to deal with. And what happens, Aaron, as I changed the perception in my past of how I saw myself and how I saw the world, what's going to happen eventually, I'm going to see the world different today. Does that make sense, Darren? Yeah. It does make sense. So oftentimes experiences of the past are creating the fears that we have today, even if we don't realize that subconsciously, these things are affecting us now. And so I know you've talked in the past to me about the fact that your goal is to treat the problems. Not so much the symptoms. Is that correct? Yes. Find the root cause and treat the root cause. Most people, even in coaching today or other type of thing, what they look is to treat the symptoms. Okay, you're procrastinating you might have a little fear and we talk about the fear and things like that, but nothing really changes. Why? Because we're not understanding where the fear comes from. So what I teach most of the time is these three very basic steps. Belief is going to trigger an emotion. An emotion is going to trigger a behavior. If I have a habit that I want to change, I need to understand that the habit is a repetition of a behavior. And if I try to change the behavior but bring another behavior in, it's ain't going to happen because this behavior or this habit that I've created comes from an emotion that comes from a belief. So what I need to do is go through my emotions. And that's one of the biggest things we spoke about, this that people struggle, because when we were kids, we were taught to repress, to ignore, to suppress our negative emotions. Don't be scared, don't be mean, don't be angry, don't be grumpy. All the time that we were presenting a negative emotion, we were taught or punished or whatever told off, told that we were wrong or something like that. And we've been seeing a lot of people that they repress their anger. They repress. Sadly, they're about to cry, and they're like, I shouldn't cry. They're fighting it. That's wrong. Why are you allowed to be happy and you're not allowed to be angry? Don't get me wrong. Now, if somebody could say that, Aaron, if you come hit me, that's not okay. Of course not. If you're going to hurt someone. No, you got to control that anger, not to hit someone. But if you're angry and you hit a bed or you hit a pillow or you go some boxing and hit a bag, there's nothing wrong with that. We're allowed to show a joy, to show happiness, to show whatever positively. But when somebody gets angry, gets sad or whatever, the person beside them automatically is going to say, Aaron, don't be angry. It's okay. It's going to pass. Don't forget about it. Forgive. That is a bunch of prop. So a lot of these things that you're talking about, they're the problems, they're the reason why a lot of people are struggling with the things that they're struggling with today. And I want to come back and talk about that a little later in the podcast. But first of all, I want to ask you, you've been teaching these tools for around ten years, correct. Twelve years now. Twelve years now. That's fantastic. When I first met you and we started conversing, I realized right away that you have a passion for people. You have a passion for helping people, reaching out just to ask me how I'm doing. I truly see that you are in this to help people. And so I just wanted people to understand that that's your motivation and your motivation is that way because of your past experiences and where you are coming from. So I want to hear about you and how the pain of your past really helped to build you into who you are today. And I just want to tell the listeners stick around because later in the episode, we're going to be talking about some of the tools that Tommy can teach you. Yes, that's correct. So, Aaron, to give you an idea. My parents were of middle class. They were struggling between middle class and a little bit lower class. So there were times that they had a little morning, sometimes that they had to go to the cookie industry to buy the cookies that were broken. So we can eat cookies to give you an idea where we are. My mum was a school teacher at a very elite high class school. So we were able to go to school for free. So imagine that I was surrounded with a lot of people with a lot of money, like tons of money packed money. So for me, since I was a kid, I was very different on top of those type of elite schools that you go to if you don't fit in. It's like you're the outsider. So since I was a kid, I was the weirdo. I like bird watching. I like magic. Just those two things. It was complicated for me at school, so I really had a hard time. And I told my mom many times, mom, please get me out of this school. I hate this school. Everybody's bullying me. I'm having a very hard time. And my mom, of course, you don't have money. She wanted the best for me. She kept me in the school. So for me, I wasn't being understood. They didn't care about me. So I always felt the black sheep in my family. Then that turned into school being the black sheep. And along my life, I screwed up relationships. I had lots of problems with money, relationships, many things. When I was around 18, I had my heart broken a couple of times with woman. And I just said I'm fed up with my friends. I'm fed up with my family. I did my bags and I want to live to the States. I was earning a lot of money in a company. I was being an endless programmer. It wasn't for me. So I went to Squaw Valley for $5 a dollar. I think something like that to work as a ski operator. What year was that? I don't remember exactly, but I think it was 2000. I think it was around the year 20 00 20 01. So it was crazy. I was making tons of money. I had my life ahead of me. It was going to be amazing, supposedly. But there was something missing. I didn't like that. So I decided to just screw my family, screw everybody. Go to hell. And I just put my bags together and I wasn't going to come back. So I went to a state. But before I left, I met a girl and we hooked up a little bit. We said, okay, I'm going to come back and see how this works. But again, I wasn't okay on my mindset again. I had so many limiting negative false beliefs about myself, about money, about relationship. I love about so many things. So I just screwed up relationship after relationship, I got married with this woman. We both were very insecure, had a lot of unresolved issues, and the marriage was a freaking mess. It was World War Three in the marriage. Finally, I didn't want to go my way because I felt that I was going to be a failure. Look at this, Aaron. I knew I didn't want to be there, but on the other hand, I didn't want to be a failure. Somebody had got married and got divorced. It's like it was a bad word in my head. I don't even know why, but that cannot happen. So I tried and I tried my best to stay in the marriage till one day this woman came to me and said to me. We are done. I said, please, no. Let's say together. Let's try. We're going to make it work. Blah. She's like, no, I'm over. I don't want this anymore. As soon as I left the house, I felt relief. Like, man, I needed this, but I couldn't get away from it. So as I did that that was around 2008. In 2009. That was around September, October. In 2008. Towards the end, I met my actual next wife, and I said, I'm going to screw up this again. I've been screwing up everything. If I don't change something, I'm going to screw up. I have been screwing up businesses. I was screwing up relationships, friendship, everything. Is it fair to say that in most areas of your life, you did not have much belief in yourself? Yes. The only thing that worked for me a little bit was at work that I believe in myself, to be able to work for a company. But I didn't want to work for a company. I want to have my own business. Since I was 18, I tried several businesses. Nothing worked. In 2003, I started another business. My dad told me I was going to go to jail and it wasn't illegal at all. But my dad, his support was, you're going to go to jail. And nobody around me supported on that business that I started as business for around. Let me see six years, a little bit more. I just struggled. I barely made it. It was a struggle over a struggle until again. In 2009, I said, I'm done. I'm tired. I'm going to quit my business. I'm going to do something else. But I hired a mindset coach, spiritual teacher. And we started working on exactly these things that we're talking about. We started going through my path to find those little tummies that had a very bad self image about myself. And I started healing as I started healing my relationships. Back then, my girlfriend started growing. We got married, we had kids and everything just grew. We've been together now for nearly twelve years now, too. We got two beautiful kids. We're living in the mountains. My business started growing very fast, very nicely. I started another business some years ago again. Nice working very well. So it's like, as I changed my mind and I changed my self image, the world on the outside started to change because I saw it in a different way. I used to think the world was crap. People were crap. Everything didn't work for me. I was the victim. I felt really bad about myself. So I attracted those type of things my way, and I looked for them. I wanted that because that was my belief system. As I started working on changing my belief system out of what the mind does is whatever you believe. If there's one thing that confirms it, but nine, that doesn't. You're just going to focus on that one thing because that's your belief system. So when I started changing my belief system, I started focusing on different things on better opportunities, better growth, better communications, better relationship. And everything started to change around me. So the example that I always try to use, and I can't even remember what they technically call this. But the idea of when you purchase a new car and suddenly you start noticing that car on the road. But you never noticed that those cars on the road before. And so are you manifesting those cars onto the road? Like, how are you just now noticing those cars? And the reality is there are good things around us. There's positive things, there's opportunity around us. But if we aren't accepting of those things, those things will not exist in our life. Exactly. You see somebody who is wildly successful and you might even feel some jealousy, and you're confused as to how their life is in such a great place. And it's highly possible that they are there because they're manifesting those things. Tommy, at what point in your life you found the help that you personally needed. You started growing yourself. At what point in your journey did you realize that you wanted to help other people? Because obviously, that's not how it was in the very beginning. Or at least it didn't seem that way. You made it all about you. You took off to Squaw Valley, you were done with it. And so at what point did you realize that you wanted to help truly help other people overcome these things as you did? Because when I was a teenager, when I was a kid, my parents always told me another thing that was kind of negative towards me. You're too emotional. I used to play with girls because I felt more attracted to girls because of their emotional connection, but not because even my parents told me we thought you're going to be gay because you were around women all the time or girls all the time. And I was with girls because I like being with them because of their emotional connection, but nothing else. Since I was a kid, I like talking to people, and I like just listening to them and helping them out as I could. I had no tools, no idea. But as I grew up, I saw people that I helped them. And when I needed help, I turned around looking for help. I felt it was my personal opinion. There was nobody there. Nobody could listen. Nobody couldn't understand what was going through. So that brought a lot of pain inside of me. So since I was a kid, there was some of that help inside that I wanted to help others. But again, when I looked around looking for help on my own because I was in a dark place, nobody was there. That's where I felt, of course. And that's when I decided I want to leave the country and really focus on myself. I started being very egocentric because before I was giving, giving and when I needed it, I looked around and I felt there was nobody there. So it was actually when I was a kid. Then in 2009, when I met this woman and we started working, I said, like, I want to do this. This is what been looking my whole life. Wow. So my question is now that we've heard a little bit about yourself, you've been doing this for a while now. You've been able to help thousands of people. You've traveled the world, and you've spoken in different countries around the world. You have this book. If you go on to Tommy's website, unleashingyyourmindset. Com, you can see testimonials of people who have been helped by what Tommy is doing. Okay. So talk to us a little bit about your program and why your program is different than a lot of other programs out there. So look, there's a lot of skeptic people out there. So let's start with this, Aaron. Out of the coaches, of people that know out there, most of the people out there therapist, coaches, they don't offer any guarantee. And one of the big things that I differentiate myself from others so people can feel that. Oh, I can trust this guy because of course, some people are going to say, who's this guy? I don't know him. I listen to him. I like what he has to say. But how do I know this is going to work for me? So first of all, what I do is I offer normally a package of four sessions to try it out, to start working with me in the first two sessions. If you don't like my process, if you don't feel any changes within, that doesn't mean everything is going to change on the outside. But things are going to start changing on the inside. If you don't feel any changes, if you don't feel this is your stuff, you get your money back. Aaron, how many people do you know that offer that nobody that I know of. I mean, that's a pretty bold claim that they're going to start to have change after two sessions with you. That's pretty unbelievable. And so the idea of changing your external circumstances, you have to change internally. Exactly. You're going to feel the changes and you're going to know if this is right for you again. Aaron, just listeners. This doesn't mean that in two sessions, your life is going to change. Things change internally. And as you change internally, as you keep doing the work, things are going to change externally. So what I offer is that and that is the bold thing, because not all people can offer that. And since I've been doing this, after working with at least 110 people that I've been doing this, the guarantee. Only one person out of 110 asked for their money back because he felt a little bit uncomfortable. The process of going back into her past to talk to his younger self. That was the person that said, hey, tell me this is not for me. Can I have my money back? And he got the money back? So the truth is, I've seen how powerful this is. I've seen the transformation. I'm working with a woman that she was depressive. She was medicated by a psychiatrist. She didn't know what else to do. She had tried many things. She came to me, started working, and in two months, she got out of her meds. In two months, only the psychiatrist diagnosed by that psychiatrist. It's not that I told her. The psychiatrist told her, you're ready to get off the meds? I don't know what you're doing, but keep doing what you're doing. That's how powerful these tools are. We're going to talk a bit more about them as we go on in this podcast, right? Yeah, absolutely. Talk to us a little bit about some of the tools that you use. The idea of the mind funnel. Give us an idea on what some of these tools are and how they're transforming people's lives. Okay. So the thing is, this the three questions that I teach to everyone, Aaron, and listen is very important. Write them down, guys. They're basic questions, but there's a lot of reflection within them as you start practicing them. And I'm going to give you an example of how they work. So one of the first questions I ask a person is okay. Aaron reaches out and says, Tell me I'm procrastinating all the time. I cannot do the things that I got to do. Okay. So tell me, what is it that you got to do? And I'm not doing to give you an example? I'm not posting. I'm not doing live. I'm not doing this or that. Okay. So close your eyes and connect with the emotion. What are you feeling? The first question is, what are you feeling? So I'm procrastinating that's a symptom. I want to go into the emotions. Emotion. I feel fear. That would be a very normal thing when we're doing something different than we're used to. So fear. Okay. So why do you feel fear? So I'm going to start digging into the fear. So what do you feel? Why do you feel that? So we go into the why? Why do you feel fear? Could be like, oh, I'm scared that I'm going to do it wrong. So I'm going to ask you what happens if you do it wrong. People don't like it. What happens if people don't like it? It's going to make me feel bad. Okay. And the third question is, how will it make you feel about yourself? How do you feel? How do you feel this? How does this make you feel about yourself? So now, sireni, Aaron says, oh, if I do a bad podcast, if I do a bad post and people don't like me, I'm going to feel a failure. So he's saying that if the result is not what he would like to, he's going to feel a failure. But it's the opposite. Guys, if I feel that I'm going to feel a failure, it doesn't go out as I expect. What I'm actually saying is, I feel a failure. I feel already a failure, and I'm scared of taking action, because if it doesn't go right, I'm going to confirm the false belief that I'm a failure. That's how the mind works. We have a belief negative belief that's holding us back. The mind is trying to prevent you from confirming that belief. So it's going to hold you back from taking actions in your life, from doing things because it doesn't want to confirm that it's a failure. A loser not good enough that there's something wrong with you that you're inadequate, that you're not lovable, that you're not worthy or whatever it is you have put up in your mind. So we need to identify those beliefs. So these three questions are the main questions that I use over and over again and every session to find within the belief system, what is the person feeling? We need to find the narrative. As I said, if I don't have money, I lose love. That was a narrative that I had. So you guys have to figure out your narrative. If you don't figure your narrative, you cannot make changes. You need to identify the root cause. Does that make sense, Aaron? Absolutely. So identifying those limiting negative and false beliefs. Exactly. Yeah. So that's step one, exactly what do most people do is, oh, I'm procrastinating. I feel fear. Don't feel fear. Try to, I don't know, break it into small pieces. So there's little fear, and then it doesn't hold you back. So again, you're treating the symptoms. You're not treating the root cause. Why is the fear there? The fear is there because you have fear of failure. So you got to tackle the fear of failure, right? The first step is to identify the second step. And again, guys, what I'm going to explain to you guys is a process. It takes practice over time, because if not, it doesn't work. And I've been doing this for twelve years. So that makes it much easier for me to figure out the same thing. If you take your cart to a mechanic that's been a mechanic for twelve years, he just listened to the Motors, and he knows exactly what's going on, what he needs to fix. If not, he's just going to take a couple of minutes or even an hour to figure out what's going on. This is the same. It's not that you're going to be a mechanic tomorrow or in an hour. I'm giving you some insight to help you. The next step is to find in your past a similar situation where you felt a failure. So imagine that when you were a kid, you were coloring something and your dad said, oh, I don't like it. Or I had a client I was working with that. She had done a picture. A coloring picture. Mom said, oh, I love how you color. I love it. You're amazing. Blah, blah, blah. All these good things. So this little girl said, oh, if I like my painting, I'm going to do a bigger painting on the wall. So she went to the wall and she did a big picture on the wall. As soon as Mum came back and saw that started screaming at her, what did you do? You're not supposed. And she's like, I thought I was going to get more love because I did something nice for mom. So she started getting limiting and negative beliefs around that event because Mum was screaming at her because she painted the wall. She didn't do it on purpose. She wanted more love for mom. So you painted that in the wall. But mom gave her hate. Mom gave her rejection. Mom gave her criticism and judgment. So now she felt a failure. So we needed to go talk to that little girl that felt a failure because she had painted a wall and mom was angry. So we explained to her in a very late way. First we understood what she felt and all of that. We got to go through the event. And then from there, we got to start telling her the truth. I'm going to give you an example that happened with my kid the other day. My kid comes over and says, dad, I'm ugly. So the first reaction of a parent would be normally is, oh, you're not ugly. Don't say that. That's not true. That is authoritarian. That's not good. Guys. What did I do to my kid? Exactly what I told you just now. Why do you feel ugly? I don't like my face. What don't you like about your face? My eyes. What is wrong with your eyes? The color. Why is the color wrong? Because it's not my brother's. Okay. So I told him you feel that as your brother has different eye colors, you are ugly, correct? Yes. Okay. So I told him, what color are your eyes? Green and Brown. What color are my eyes? Green and Brown. They're very similar. They're not the same, right? Yeah, I told him, are my eyes ugly? Ugly? No. So if I have the same colors as you do, a very similar color as you do. And I'm not ugly. Where does that leave you? And he just kind of started smiling. And I told him we are all different. Different makes us beautiful. Your mom is different and your brother is different. I am different. You're different. Being different is not bad. It's beautiful. He smiled and walked away with a new belief. But I didn't push him to change his belief. I gave him information to draw his own conclusion, to understand that he wasn't ugly without telling him you're not ugly. See the difference? Okay, normally, most people out there are telling you, Aaron, come on. You're a chat, man. You can do it. Come on, man. I know you got it. Go do it. Go do it. That's bullshit because you're not dealing with the root cause. You're not healing. You're not transforming. You're just covering it up. And that's what most people do out there. And that's why you're asking, like, Why is this so powerful? And I didn't create this guy. I'm not talking like Tommy's Creator. I'm the best. No, this has been coming for so many years around with different people. You can look up, June. You can look up Margaret Paul, you can look up Bradshaw. You can look up many authors out there that have a lot of material on how to change your subconscious mind in a loving way. Guys, that's the most important piece of the puzzle. It's not forcing yourself to change it's. Understanding that there's a little boy, a little girl inside of it, that's suffering from the past that needs to be addressed. And as there is no time in the subconscious mind, you can bring back that memory and work around it as if it were happening right now. That's how powerful the mind is. So when that person, when your friend is putting themselves down and you build them up by just telling them you've got this, you can do this. All you're doing is you're covering and you're filling that hole. But it's going to be temporary. Exactly. Interesting. That's what most motivational speakers do. They pump you up. They create a necessity. So you need to go back to them because you need more fuel. Your fuel comes down. You need more fuel, your fuel comes down. You need more fuel. So they create this necessity, this attachment to you. And now you're running after them because you need your fuel. That is not empowering. That is disempowering. My mind goes to Tony Robbins. God, love the man. And I know that he's probably doing a lot of good in the world. But I see somebody like that. And I see his followers continuing to follow him and paying thousands and thousands of dollars, so much money to go to his seminars every single year in different States. And it's like, if you need to go back, what is the problem here? He's not fixing the problem if you continually have to go back to get that dopamine hit. So that's quite interesting. I definitely understand where you're coming from in that finding the problem and changing the problem instead of the symptoms is just key to changing your life and transforming your life into who you want to be and starting to follow the path that you are meant to go down. So something that I oftentimes tell people and I want to get your take on this. It's really easy when you start implementing new things into your life like this. It's easy. I don't like to use the word fail, but it's easily to slip and to fall back. And so what do you do when you fall back? Because the obvious thing for many people would be from now on, I'm going to wake up every morning. I'm going to write down the things that I'm thankful for in my life. I'm going to wake up in the morning. I'm going to exercise every single day. Well, now on day four, I didn't go out and exercise, and now I have two options. I could completely put myself down and give myself a hard time for not doing what I had promised myself to do. Or I can realize that I slipped. I fell back. I'm going to move forward. What are your thoughts on that? That's the lack of love. You just said it. I love what you just said, and that's what most people do. I'm going to change. I'm going to go for it. Blah, blah, blah. Then they slip like I'm such a jerk in the disaster. Blah, blah. And they start giving all this scrap to themselves, and then they switch. Why? Because again and look at this, Aaron, a lot of people are using this new modern thing about meditation, but it's not so modern. No, I'm talking about that. Everybody now is more. A lot of people are doing it. I started meditating when I was 1617. I was back in 96, 95 94. And nobody around me except nobody knows. One person around me was only meditating. I was the weirdo again at school. I was the weirdo. So over here now we're in 2021 and a lot of people are meditation talking about all these things. But unfortunately, what I see and it doesn't mean that I sometimes not fall into that they use these healthy habits to cover the pain instead of with beer, with a cigarette, with drugs, with porn, with whatever. They still cover the pain with healthy habits like exercise. Exactly. They go out. Oh, when I feel sad, I go run. No, I would rather say no. Stop. Connect with the pain, connect with the sadness. Understand it. Then go out and run. Because if you go out and run to feel good about yourself, you're covering something up, you're needing something externally. You should be able to sit down there, just not doing anything and be happy. I'm not saying it's easy. Don't get me wrong. But if you could do that and then say, out of here, I'm going to go run. That's perfect. But if you're looking to run to feel good, if you're looking to do yoga, to feel good, if you're looking to meditate to feel good. No, you are covering up the problem. You're not facing it. And I can say, Aaron, 70, 80% of the people out there that are using healthy habits, you're using them to cover up the pain. I have asked in tone. Robin's Group no, half a million people in there. What do you do when you feel pain? 95% of the people, Aaron answered external things. I had maybe five or ten people that said, I look inside to see what's hurting. Everybody else said I would dance, eat or run meditate, do yoga, blah. If you meditate just for the sake of meditation, it's useless when you're connecting with yourself to find why you have the pain. That's where meditation starts helping out, even being a workaholic. That's one that you see a lot in society, people becoming addicted to their work because it's a way of running away from everything else. So, Tommy, what are your thoughts on? Sort of this new mentality, this hustle mentality, like I'm going to grit my teeth and I'm going to hustle through it. This is something that you see quite often. Just deal with it, hustle through it. And what are your thoughts on that? So I'm going to ask you something again. I'm going to ask you back. So do you feel that that is loving hustling through? Is that true love? Not so much? You just answered. I'm so happy, Aaron, that I was so emotional as a kid because that helps me connect with people and understand when they say to me, oh, tell me I love going out and running, and I listen to what they're saying. And I have a very deep connection because of this emotional connection that I developed since I was a kid. This emotional whatever state that I can kind of go through the crap. I listen to what you're saying, but I can listen deep down what you mean. Some people tell me, oh, I go wrong when I feel sad. Yeah, Tom, I love doing this, but I can see the weight that they're putting on and try to escape the pain or something like that. So the truth is, I ask people, okay, so what are you feeling? What are you doing? Try to see the intention behind directions, because that's the most important thing. If you go see Netflix and you see 2 hours on Netflix, there's nothing wrong. If your intention is, I want to chill. I want to relax. But if you feel pain and you want to disconnect from the pain and you want to just stop your mind, putting Netflix is just disconnecting from yourself. And a lot of people say like, oh, I want to become my true self. I want to become more awakened, become more whatever. And it's like whenever you do something that abandons you, rejects you, criticize, judge whatever you are separating yourself. So this what you're saying about pushing yourself to go through this? I don't believe in that. I don't believe in that at all. You're becoming someone else. You're not becoming your true self because you're throwing away your true self and becoming someone else because you don't want to feel the pain from your old self because your old self isn't paying because of our past experiences. So it's not just getting rid of the old self. It's letting the true self come out by feeling those parts of you that feel bad about yourself. You see the difference there? I do. Yeah. You see a lot of that in the podcast community, too. People who almost become somewhat addicted to listening to podcasts and listening to audiobooks. And nothing wrong with that, because it's helping you to expand your mind. It's helping you to learn to become a better person. There's nothing wrong with that per se. But there's that person that turns on a podcast every single time. They're in a quiet room because they can't stand what's happening here in the mind. Exactly. Tommy, you were talking about your boys. I really want to know how has being a father changed your life? It's been amazing in both ways. It brings a lot of joy and happiness. But I'm going to be honest with you guys. It also brings all your own resolve issues out to the surface. Your kids with what I've said and everything. What they do is they take you back day by day, year by year, through your own life. So in my example, when you were three years old and your dad scream at you when your little kid is three either. Like, I got two. So I repeat it back again when suddenly one of those kids hit the age where you had troubles, they're going to start behaving and they're going to start bringing up things from your past. It's been really challenging and really amazing at the same time, of course. Yeah. Definitely has made you a better person working on that every day. That's the idea progress as hopefully we all are doing right. That's the idea. You know, something that I sort of changing the subject slightly. And that is I am an avid. I love the outdoors. I'm a mountain climber, a mountaineer backpacker. I love spending time outdoors, snowboarder. And as somebody like yourself who is deeply into those types of things, too, I'm curious what your thoughts are, as far as how nature has played a part in your life. And also what are your thoughts on the outdoors and the effects it can have on your mental health? I love what you're saying. So again, if I go ski or snowboard to kind of disconnect in a way to disconnect my pain, try to feel better. That's where again, I'm going to say like, you got to watch out. But of course, being outdoors, connecting to yourself, being by yourself for a little time, go to walk into nature. I think it's just amazing. It's amazing. But again, we got to be careful not to fall in the addiction of I go do this because I feel bad. I feel bad. So I go for a walk. Okay. But are you connecting with yourself with that pain inside instead of repressing it connecting, it accepting it embracing the pain. Guys, there we go. That's the word that I use normally is embrace the pain. We normally do external things to disconnect from the pain. So I find and I live in the mountains. So I love it that going out into nature is something that I really enjoy going skiing, going for a walk, whatever it is. I love it. So, yeah, it helps a lot to do those type of activities in nature because it connects you with yourself, too. It connects you with nature, and it connects you back with yourself, too. So it's a great idea. So a couple of podcast episodes ago, I believe it was episode 19. I had a lady on the podcast, and she works on an ambulance service. She works for a fire Department. She's an EMT, and she also is a co founder of a guiding company. And what they've started to do with their guiding company is they've started taking first responders. They're doing these guided trips for first responders. They take first responders into the mountains for a few days, and they take licensed counselors, people that can help them through things that they've experienced, things that they're struggling with in their lives, things that they've seen. And they create this experience for these people out in the mountains and just being in nature, being in the fresh air exercise. And I just think that's so cool. I think the outdoors can be a huge healing tool, but that's what it is. It's a tool like it's not the fix. It may be a tool in a number of things. Is what you're saying? Yeah. Just like exercise can be a major, a great tool. Tommy, there are so many people in our society right now, and I can't talk for where you're from. But I know that here in the US, we have a problem with obesity. There are so many people who are struggling with obesity. There's so many mental health issues, and sometimes people just need somebody to show up and to encourage them to get off the couch because there's no way that somebody who's dealing with obesity is not sitting there on the couch, putting themselves down for where they are. I mean, that's happening. Obviously, they're sitting there putting themselves down for the situation that they're in, but they don't know how to get out of it. And they need help. They need help to change their mindset. They need help to change that person inside of them that's afraid because of the things of their past, like you're saying. And I think what you're doing is very admirable, and it all makes a lot of sense. And I think that there's a lot of people out there. I know there's a lot of people who have been helped by what you're doing, and there's so many more who need what you're doing. That's fantastic. Is there anything else you'd like to share about your program? So the idea guys is to go deeper into subconscious mind to find what is holding us back. Since we are kids from zero to seven, we're going to start creating our belief system. If mom and dad that were not perfect treated us in ways that made us feel not good enough, rejected, judge, criticized, whatever, even shame, whatever it is that mom and dad made us feel as kids, they maybe didn't do it on purpose or they did. It depends. I've seen all types of things out there. We need to go find that little boy, that little girl from your path that created that belief system. Your belief system is dictating your life. Imagine it's a movie that you have the script you have written in a movie, and now you want to change. And I use this example, Aaron, that looks silly. But look at this. It's like people wanted to change their life by standing in the middle of the theater looking at a screen and screaming at the actors because they want to make the actors say something else or change the end of the story. Do you imagine a guy in the middle of the theater screaming at the screen saying that he wants to change the story? It's not going to happen, guys. And that's what most people are doing. They're screaming at the screen, trying to change the screen, the movie, it's not going to happen. You need to go back to the script. You need to rewrite your script so that the actors play another movie in the screen, and that's how it works. Your mind is a projector, and your belief system is a script. You need to change your script so that the projector is going to project another type of life. And I've seen it happen with me. And with a lot of people, I have worked all around the world. It doesn't matter where you come from. Religion, whatever it is, it doesn't matter. I work with Liberal US, Canada, from Chile, Argentina, from Uruguay. I've worked with people from Australia, New Zealand, India, Africa, Spain, France. It doesn't matter where we come from. How the mind processes information is exactly the same for everyone, not the script. Don't get me wrong. It's not about the script, but how the conscious mind processes the information that you go through as a kid is exactly the same. That's why it makes it easier for me to find exactly what's going on. That's why I call myself the mind engineer. I reverse engineer. What you're struggling today to find the problem, to find the path that brought you where you are today. Isn't it amazing how technology has changed in such a way that you can reach so many more people with this message than you ever could have before? I mean, Tommy, a few weeks ago, I had no idea who you were. And now we're sitting here. We're connecting over this podcast, and there's all these people listening to what we have to say. And maybe because of what we're doing here, somebody is going to realize that they need change and they're going to reach out. They're going to get the help that they need. They're going to start changing their mental patterns. And then who knows where that person is going to go? It's like the butterfly effect. I mean, this one specific small act that we're doing by recording a podcast and so humbled by the amount of people that are going to be listening to this. And we could change so many people's lives through this action. And it's incredible. Tommy, you were telling me that what you do is a lot more than just coaching. What else do you offer? So I make sure different things like it includes coaching, inner child healing, connecting to your past. As I mentioned there's, NLP it's a mixture of many things that we put together to develop this that we're doing to be able to go back into your past, the specific process. Find that little young self of you that's suffering connect with that young self so that the subconscious mind opens up. The only way to change the script is by going to the exact page where the script is. And imagine that the subconscious mind, like a person letting you or not change the script. So we do the work to be able to open the script so that you can go there and change it in a loving way, in an accepting way. Again, you have a younger self that has facts to prove that he doesn't feel good enough. There's facts. So if you tell that young self, hey, you're good enough affirmations, you take affirmations for a month, a year, two years, five years. You see very little change because that little young self has facts that prove that he's not good enough so he can say as much as he can. I am good enough. I am good enough. I am good enough. And most of the time, Aaron, it won't work. That's why we have put together all of these tools to make a much more effective change. And as I was saying, out of 100 statistics, one person didn't like the process, and I have a 96% success rate in the people I'm working with. It doesn't mean that in a month or two, their life is going to completely change. But again, people that have been working with me for several months, they start seeing changes in their life. As I told you, this woman that in two months she stopped the antidepressants. I had another woman that we worked for four months. She couldn't find a relationship, a steady relationship, a guy that would love her, care for her and all this. And she had a really awful image of a man. When she was a kid, mum and dad were together. Dad would travel and mom would tell her daughters that men were garbage. Men were douchebags men were this. She was complaining all the time about men. So she put out her maimage in her head, this little girl, that men are bad, that men are mean, that men are narcissists, whatever. So she went out into the world looking for those type of men. So each time she got into a relationship, it was a bad relationship. After working for several months, she started dating a guy. She told me, I cannot believe it. This guy doesn't do this, doesn't do this. She was shocked because she wasn't looking for that anymore. That's how powerful these tools are. You change your belief system. You change everything around you. It takes time, practice to get there. But it works. I can only imagine the satisfaction that you get from sharing some of these things with people who honestly have never realized that their past was the root cause of the issues that they were dealing with. And there must just be a huge amount of satisfaction to help people finally come to that conclusion when that light bulb turns on and they realize that this is what they've been missing all along, it's always been from their past. They're so stuck in looking at the problem that they don't realize, like, why the problem is there. So it's amazing. I really appreciate you taking the time today to be on the podcast. I really hope that there's some people out there who can benefit from this episode. And if you want to reach out to Tommy again, you can go to unleashingyourminset. Com or you can just find him on Facebook. Tommy Walker, the Mind engineer. Are you on Instagram or is Facebook kind of your main social platform? I don't use much since I'm there, but it's very little what I'm moving there. Most focus on my website or mainly on Facebook. Exactly. To everybody who has made it to the end of this podcast episode. Thank you for sticking around. I highly recommend that you listen to some of the other episodes that we've done. We really hope that we're adding value to your lives. Our mission here is to create a place for people to be inspired by stories of overcoming, realizing that you can get up and you can move on and you can change your life for the better. So thank you very much. Until next time, we will talk to you again.